According to the research of scientists, a person is offended in 3 - 5 seconds. But do you know how to get out of this state just as quickly, or do you linger in it for months or even years? The resentment formula sounds succinct: "I don't want you to be like this." Resentment is our unjustified expectations. After all, what is normal for one may not be normal for the other. And then, having failed to build a dialogue with a partner, we go for manipulation: we become cold and silent, so that according to our behavior a person draws his conclusions and changes. But, taking offense at someone, we first of all harm ourselves, spend our life energy on maintaining negativity against the offender, and not on the joy of life. And female grievances against men in general are fraught with the fact that a woman cannot build strong long-term relationships. In order not to accumulate negative emotions in the body and begin to live in harmony with yourself and the world around you, it is necessary: • to realize the causes of grievances; • to take responsibility for your feelings; • to get out of the victim's position; • to change negative attitudes to positive ones.