To be a supermom, a skillful hostess, the most caring daughter and the best wife, always look great and constantly improve in work - does the desire to be perfect in everything really bring us closer to happiness or, on the contrary, only prevents us from feeling it? Business psychologist and popular blogger Julia Furdman examines in this book 9 obstacles that separate us from what is truly important and valuable to us, and often slow down on the way to a dream. It shows how expectations, the habit of enduring, unfulfilled plans and ideas, endless far-fetched "must" and "should," depreciation and other restrictive attitudes and strategies prevent you from unleashing the potential and creating the life that you desire. You will learn how to adjust communication with other people and stop focusing on someone else's opinion, what attitude to problems allows you not to waste energy, how to manifest yourself, become yourself and thanks to this move through life more confidently, joyfully and easily.