Modern parents have fallen into another pedagogical extreme: today it is considered right to spoil, encourage children in every possible way, approve of their every step and in no case scold or upset. It seems to sound good, but in fact this approach threatens the psychological health of future generations no less than the parental tyranny generally accepted for past decades. Spoiled, not accustomed to independence, children grow up infantile and actually immature personalities. Robin Berman, a certified psychotherapist and mother of three children, suggests taking the best from the previous upbringing system (when no one was interested in the needs of the children) and from the modern one.