Historically, it is difficult for women to enjoy sex and only a man should be active in a couple. We focus on culture, religion, rumors, the media, and completely forget about the facts - we forget about ourselves. Social norms made us believe that: - Women are ashamed to want sex, and even enjoy it - and even more so. - Sex is more important for men than for women. - It is more important to please your partner than to get it yourself. 'It's better to fake an orgasm than sort things out afterwards. It's not true. Psychologist and sexologist Karen Gurney says that we ourselves program our brains for certain sexual scenarios. And we can enjoy not only the culmination of sex, but also the process itself. It is difficult to talk about sex, but couples who discuss intimate life and share their desires are better not only sex itself, but also relationships. Karen Gurney explores the nature of female and male desire, the factors on which it depends, and tells how to overcome the main problem - the gap between ideas about what our sex life should be and what it really is. The main thing to remember is that desire lives between people, not within one person.