A person who has difficulty dealing with himself can distance himself from his experiences. Such a person does not know how to handle what is happening inside him, he is afraid of his own emotions. The price of such psychological protection is the loss of contact with yourself. This book examines the basic conflicts that each of us faces in trying to build relationships with ourselves and others, as well as their extreme poles: • autonomy - dependence, • submission - control, • the need for care - self-sufficiency, • blaming ourselves - blaming others.